What is the difference and why does it matter in job interviews? Assertiveness is saying what you mean without being impolite, asking for what you want without making demands. Assertive behaviour helps you to avoid being manipulated or put off easily. This style is far more likely to create a positive impression than either aggressiveness or non-assertion.
Aggressiveness means that you stand out, but not in a good way. Being overly pushy or contrary will probably irritate and alienate the interviewer. You may get what you want in the short term but it may hinder your progress later. On the other hand, passive or non-assertive behaviour can lead to a loss of your self-respect. This is where you let others get their own way and make yourself into a walkover.
It has been reported that interviewers reach a decision about an applicant within five minutes after meeting them. In this time there is little more to evaluate than how you look and speak, how you carry yourself, and how you greeted the interviewer, all clear clues of your level of self-confidence.
Being confidently assertive helps you reduce the stress in an interview situation and to exercise more control over your working life. Here are three ways to sail through the interview assertively.
- Prepare well
It’s a bit like preparing for negotiations. Research your interviewer and the organisation you are intending to work for. Know how to respond to those difficult, and sometimes inane, questions, like what would you do in a conflict situation or what makes you the best candidate for this job? Remember that assertive behaviour is not specifically designed to get you what you want in every situation; in fact, it involves negotiation and compromise.
Bring your notes and don’t be afraid to use them. It makes you look well-prepared. If something of interest is mentioned about the job, pause and write it down. Be professional and be the best-prepared candidate they are likely to interview.
- Practice your success stories
It is crucial to create a strategy for communicating your accomplishments to your interviewer in a succinct and memorable fashion. Do you have a C.A.R? Skilled interviewers will look for proof of your stated achievements by drilling down into the details of what you say you have accomplished.
C.A.R. stands for Challenge » Action » Result. Write down a few gems relating to work areas that will come up in the interview. By dropping a story into the conversation you can showcase the action that you took to overcome a problem and can demonstrate to your interviewer that you achieved the desired result.
Mini-stories should be succinct and limited only to relevant details, just a few sentences. They will allow you to share examples of your past successes and let your actions speak.
- Polish your communication skills
Candidates demonstrate their assertiveness by the questions they ask, as well as the questions they answer. One trait employers look for is the ability to communicate effectively at all levels in an organisation. Being too tentative with senior managers is not a good sign. People are just people, so speak with confidence and show a positive attitude but with respect.
Come prepared with questions about the job, such as expected results after the first year, where it fits into the organisation and what happened to the person who had the job before. Practice your questions as well as your answers in preparation for your interview.
Speak clearly and use good diction at a reasonable volume. Talking too quickly and loudly is not being assertive, it shows nervousness. Nonverbal cues influence an interviewer’s impression of you just as much your words do so keep up the eye contact. Express your honest opinions but wisely.
What the recruiters say
Candidates show a poor level of assertiveness when they:
- Show a lack of confidence in expressing achievements and abilities
- Sound unsure of themselves when answering questions
- Are overly agreeable to everything said by the interviewer
- Trail off or mumble instead of clearly completing a thought
At the end of the interview, ask what’s next in the hiring process. You may not get a straight answer but it is clear that you want to know.
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